We all have behaviours that we would like to change. Maybe it's an addictive behaviour, like drinking, smoking or drugging. Or maybe it's something more subtle, like spending too much time on social media, or not eating enough greens.
Recognising the need to change is an important first step in the change process. However, planning ahead and taking a few extra steps can go a long way in helping us to make – and maintain – change.
When we first reach the conclusion that we need to make change, we often focus on why the behaviour is problematic. For example, a smoker contemplating change may have thoughts such as "Smoking is costing me too much money", "I can no longer get up a flight of stairs without huffing and puffing" or "I don't want to end up with lung cancer".
These thoughts can be powerful catalysts for initiating change. However, sustaining change can take a bit more work. As humans, we perform behaviours to fulfil specific needs or functions. People spend countless hours perusing social media for a reason. Perhaps that reason is to alleviate boredom, or anxieties around "missing out" on something by not checking it frequently.
If we only focus on our reasons for wanting to change, ignoring why we perform the behaviour in the first place, we are more likely to come across obstacles that may thwart our progress towards change. Conversely, if we adopt a holistic view, acknowledging the benefits and costs of change, we are in a better position to anticipate potential obstacles and barriers, and to problem solve them.
Next time you are contemplating behaviour change, I encourage you to consider not only the reason for changing, but also the reasons why you engage in the behaviour in the first place. It can be helpful to consider:
The benefits of continuing the behaviour
The costs of continuing the behaviour
The benefits of changing/stopping the behaviour
The costs of changing/stopping the behaviour
To illustrate, let's use the example of a cigarette smoker who is contemplating quitting (bottom of the article)
Amplifying the advantages
In this example, some of the positives of stopping the behaviour included improved health and fitness, saving money, and reduced conflict with family members. Here are some suggestions of how to amplify these advantages, which can provide added motivation to stop smoking:
Problem solving potential pitfalls
This involves focusing on the reasons why you perform the behaviour in the first place and why it may be challenging to stop, and problem solving to maximise your chances of success. Here are a few problem-solving strategies for the example above:
Here at LETSS, we understand that changing behaviours can be difficult, and that a little extra support can go a long way. Please contact LETSS on 1800 013 755 or via web chat to discuss your behaviour change goals and develop an action plan to put it into practice!
1800 013 755
LETSS@skylight.org.au